Fighting for Love
This is something my friend Emily M. posted the past week. I think it is perfect.
She writes this as D.C. is amidst a large gay rights debate over legalizing gay marriage in the district.
In May the D.C. council voted to recognize same-sex marriages that were performed elsewhere in a vote of 12 to 1. The one voter against this bill said that "All hell is going to break lose. We may have a civil war. The black community is just adamant against this." It's ridiculous to think that allowing marriage would cause a civil war. If it does, something is fundamentally wrong in the minds of the residents of this country, the free-est country in the world. But it seems that the U.S. is falling behind as a whole, rather than forwards. Even Spain, a deeply religious country, allows gays to marry and have the same legal status in every way as opposite-sex marriages. Uproad in D.C. as Same-Sex Marriage Gains. So people need to get over themselves and imagine what it would be like for them if they were denied the right to legally marry.
Another proposed law that would allow same-sex marriage in D.C. has received extreme opposition from the Catholic church who even threatened to stop offering financial support to D.C.s homeless and orphans if the bill became a law. Even more ridiculous.
I don't understand how anyone could allow this bill to be stopped, because there needs to be a clear divide between church and state. There is no good argument from the church's position to not allow this- it does not involve the church in any way. Gay marriage would not prevent or stop the idea of a family. A family is not a man and a woman, a family is a group of people who care for each other and take car of each other. Gay couples are this way. Allowing gays to adopt gives children homes, homes with two parents, not one. Allowing marriage promotes stability in gay relationships.
Marriage is not about God. Why is it that I do not believe in God, but can go get married in a church and by law??
10. Many of my friends are gay - too many. Maybe this way I wouldn't feel so left out.
9. I could learn some new moves ;)
8. I could feel braver about cutting my hair ridiculously short.
7. I would believe that I was beautiful because women are beautiful. Nevermind. I already believe this.
6. I could say the words gay and fag and dike - just like all the cool kids but I'd change the connotation.
5. I f...king LOVE parades!!!! and glitter AND rainbows!!!!!! omg!!!!!
4. I could wear ties, vests, button down shirts , and sneakers on a regular basis.
3. I could adopt kids and help with population control, even if it's only a little bit.
2. I could play on a football team - an all-girls football team and I would be the worst one but NOT because I'm a girl - but for the pure and simple reason that I suck at football.
1. If I got married - I'd know it was real. That it was real love and that it was going to last and that divorce was a backup plan backed way up in the back of my head. I'd know this because gay people have to fight for their love. They have to fight every day until they are married and then they have to fight every day after that.
People say that gay marriage is demeaning to the institute of marriage but when is the last time any straight couple had to fight to prove their love? We (the straights) can go to Vegas and drunkenly promise to love each other stupidly for the rest of our lives. We can go on television and make fools of ourselves in our quest for love (which only lasts about 10 weeks).
No one will riot on our wedding day.
People will still throw rice instead of rocks.
Sometimes I wish I was gay so that I could fight for my soul mate, for our love, knowing that our promises don't threaten the institute of marriage but possibly...
strengthen it.
In May the D.C. council voted to recognize same-sex marriages that were performed elsewhere in a vote of 12 to 1. The one voter against this bill said that "All hell is going to break lose. We may have a civil war. The black community is just adamant against this." It's ridiculous to think that allowing marriage would cause a civil war. If it does, something is fundamentally wrong in the minds of the residents of this country, the free-est country in the world. But it seems that the U.S. is falling behind as a whole, rather than forwards. Even Spain, a deeply religious country, allows gays to marry and have the same legal status in every way as opposite-sex marriages. Uproad in D.C. as Same-Sex Marriage Gains. So people need to get over themselves and imagine what it would be like for them if they were denied the right to legally marry.
Another proposed law that would allow same-sex marriage in D.C. has received extreme opposition from the Catholic church who even threatened to stop offering financial support to D.C.s homeless and orphans if the bill became a law. Even more ridiculous.
I don't understand how anyone could allow this bill to be stopped, because there needs to be a clear divide between church and state. There is no good argument from the church's position to not allow this- it does not involve the church in any way. Gay marriage would not prevent or stop the idea of a family. A family is not a man and a woman, a family is a group of people who care for each other and take car of each other. Gay couples are this way. Allowing gays to adopt gives children homes, homes with two parents, not one. Allowing marriage promotes stability in gay relationships.
Marriage is not about God. Why is it that I do not believe in God, but can go get married in a church and by law??
Top 10 Reasons that sometimes... I wish I was gay.
10. Many of my friends are gay - too many. Maybe this way I wouldn't feel so left out.
9. I could learn some new moves ;)
8. I could feel braver about cutting my hair ridiculously short.
7. I would believe that I was beautiful because women are beautiful. Nevermind. I already believe this.
6. I could say the words gay and fag and dike - just like all the cool kids but I'd change the connotation.
5. I f...king LOVE parades!!!! and glitter AND rainbows!!!!!! omg!!!!!
4. I could wear ties, vests, button down shirts , and sneakers on a regular basis.
3. I could adopt kids and help with population control, even if it's only a little bit.
2. I could play on a football team - an all-girls football team and I would be the worst one but NOT because I'm a girl - but for the pure and simple reason that I suck at football.
1. If I got married - I'd know it was real. That it was real love and that it was going to last and that divorce was a backup plan backed way up in the back of my head. I'd know this because gay people have to fight for their love. They have to fight every day until they are married and then they have to fight every day after that.
People say that gay marriage is demeaning to the institute of marriage but when is the last time any straight couple had to fight to prove their love? We (the straights) can go to Vegas and drunkenly promise to love each other stupidly for the rest of our lives. We can go on television and make fools of ourselves in our quest for love (which only lasts about 10 weeks).
No one will riot on our wedding day.
People will still throw rice instead of rocks.
Sometimes I wish I was gay so that I could fight for my soul mate, for our love, knowing that our promises don't threaten the institute of marriage but possibly...
strengthen it.
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